by lipsticklady » Fri May 28, 2010 5:35 pm
I can't tell my mum I am gay. She doesn't have a clue either, in fact nobody who meets me would even imagine it. I have told some of my medical professionals and they have been very supportive especially my councellor, in fact I found a real gem in her as she not only has a gay son she also has a friend whose daughter is gay, so she really understands the issues I face and is supportive. But anyway back to my mum, it's difficult, see I am feeling comfortable in my own skin since having councelling but I cannot tell my mum, especially not now as we had the shock in October of my dad dying. I can't hit her with another life changing piece of news, not at the moment anyway. So I am pretending to be A-sexual and it's not easy. Thing is my mum seems to be really against anything to do with gay people, I have been noticing it a lot lately as the story lines on a few of the soaps have been about gay issues. She comments on how it shouldn't be shown and if it has to be it should be after the water shed. Luckily I live alone so I can be myself when I am alone or with other people, just not when my mum comes round. I don't blame her, but sometimes I feel bitter. When I say I don't blame her, I mean I accept that is her opinion and it's her right to feel that way, so long as she isn't nasty to a gay person, which she wouldn't be. It's to do with her upbringing, she had a sheltered childhoon and a religious one, so of course as she is from the old school, she isn't use to gay people. I wonder if anyone else is in a similar position and if anyone has any advice for me?